Follow up to “What will make them care?” post

6 08 2008

Ran across this link on Tony Morgan’s site, which details some reasons the unchurched may stick once they attend a church - http://churchrelevance.com/qa-top-reasons-for-church-attendance/

Which led me to ask, “Yes, but what will get them there in the first place?”. We’re spending a lot of time examining assumptions these days at NP. I love it. I stuck in ‘98 because I found two elements that had previously never mixed in my life up to that point: relevance and ministry. We’ve become known for the environments we create, but we know it’s relationships (genuine “I respect and care about you” ones, not “I just need to get you saved” ones) that are the main factor in determining whether someone will give you a chance. My roommates at the time convinced me to attend North Point with them.

We, the Church, can work on a lot of things, but being a better friend will have the greatest impact. Relationship sure seemed to matter to God. Hmm… :-)

Here were some other interesting links on church attendance: (Thanks to Kent Shaffer at churchrelevance.com for these)

http://churchrelevance.com/why-young-adults-stop-continue-and-restart-attending-church/

http://churchrelevance.com/why-go-to-church-and-why-people-dont/





What I’m thinking about these days…

3 08 2008
  • Even though I’m at a great church and Sundays rock, I know several hundred thousand people in the area are either unaware, could care less or are flat out hostile to what we do. How do we intersect with their lives?
  • If people gave to the Church like they really believe God existed, everything they have comes from Him and He asked them to give a portion back, what kind of generosity could be unleashed in each community? Read recently that most churchgoers give about $600/year to their church. And that’s the people who are actually going!
  • Why don’t churches work better with each other? It’s not “you win, I lose”. It really is “you win, I win, we win, the Kingdom wins”. It’s clear we don’t really operate that way. I wonder how many people have avoided God because of the pettiness they see among churches?
  • Will we (North Point) make our 5/50/10 goal (5,000 groups/50,000 people/2010)? I’m not celebrating the numbers. I just know firsthand what God can do when people share life together and encourage each other to pursue Him. Latest I heard we’re edging into the high 20,000s in groups among the 3 campuses and 15 strategic partners.
  • Will my Cubbies win the World Series for the first time since 1908? I started watching them as a 10-year old, and am now 37. I wonder how many other 10-yr olds over the last century have said, “Surely they’ll win it in my lifetime”, and those folks are no longer with us. Come on Cubs! I’m just asking for 1 championship to view with my own eyes.




Have to brag on my wife

29 06 2008

Of course, I think she’s great, but on top of that, she’s got talent. Thanks to a tip from my friend, Mike Davis (http://mikedavis.carbonmade.com), we have a new website to show off Jen’s paintings - http://jentanksley.carbonmade.com. Thanks Mike!





Dear Mr. President…

16 06 2008

So, North Point has a series coming up at the end of June/start of July entitled “Letters to the Next President”. You can visit the website here, www.letterstothenextpresident.com, to submit your own letter. It’ll be interesting to see where people go with this. Here was mine by the way - dear-mr-president

I think the thing we are all craving the most is authenticity and someone with convictions who will stick to their guns. I don’t even have to agree all the time. In fact, I won’t. Just have a spine and be a leader. We are long overdue. I definitely think the country is worn ragged from the political machinery of the last several decades. Even with presidential approval ratings in the low 30’s, the ratings for Congress are even worse, in the low 20’s. It’s clear that we’re fed up. What would you advise?





That’s what I’m talking about!

5 06 2008

Got an email from my friend David the other day with a link to this video. Now that’s authenticity that people are looking for! Way to go Hillside Christian Church in Amarillo, TX!





Thank you veterans and those serving now!

23 05 2008

Thanks to all of you who have served this country in the military and military support roles. I know Memorial Day is a time when it comes to mind for us, but what you do has enriched every day for us as Americans. We have something special here and your service has protected it and brought hope to millions around the world. It’s not always pretty and war is messy, but I cannot imagine the state of the world today without a strong America defending its founding principles and reaching out to expand them.

You’re the best and I’m grateful to you. Have a great Memorial Day.





Helping the Colwells

14 05 2008

Thankfully, many of you seemed to lay eyes on my post about our friend, Michael Colwell, who lost his battle with cancer about a week ago. This family deserves every bit of our thoughts, prayers and support. Michael left behind his wife and two little boys, ages 4 and 3, and as much as we all miss MC, we all think constantly at how they must feel.

Michael was first diagnosed in his 20’s, and sadly, had not even really considered life insurance before. Of course, that became a “pre-existing condition” and he was unable to get any life insurance with that black mark. We are rallying to support them, but I just wanted to expand the audience for anyone who would like to help Jen and the boys in practical ways as they continue on without their husband and dad.

A tax-deductible memorial fund has been set up to help the Colwells. Here’s the pertinent info:

Helping Hands Ministries (make payable to)
Account #63045
P.O. Box 337
Tallulah Falls, GA 30573

Be sure to note Account #63045 in the memo line.

Thanks for any contribution you’d like to make.





A Goodbye None of Us Wanted to Say

9 05 2008

We held a memorial service today for Michael Colwell, MC as we all knew him around the office. Michael fought a courageous battle against cancer for the last few years. It was first discovered as skin cancer, but it moved into his blood stream. A couple of years ago he had some lymph nodes removed and was cancer free for a good while, but it showed up again a few months ago and moved relentlessly against his body. MC was 31 years old and leaves his wife and two small boys behind.

Throughout all of this, I never once heard MC complain about the hand he’d been dealt. The guy just continually amazed me. I remember a conversation we had over a year ago. I asked him how he was dealing with all of this - the uncertainty, the treatment and side effects, etc. I’ll never forget Michael’s response, “Tank, all I know is that I’m alive today and I’m grateful for that. I’m not going to let what I can’t control ruin the time I have.” That was Michael in a nutshell - always positive.

One other story about MC. Michael went to Clemson, where he received his first Master’s degree in Electrical Engineering (his other was a Master’s in Theology from Dallas Theological Seminary). Being a UNC grad myself, Michael and I traded lots of good-natured barbs when our teams met. He always enjoyed the football matchups, while I held the upper-hand in basketball. Well, if you remember this year’s basketball meetings between Clemson and UNC, they both were led by Clemson by large margins until Carolina forced them into overtime, where they won both. The meeting in Chapel Hill was frustratingly close to historic for MC. Clemson led by as many as 23 in the second half. Surely this was the year Clemson would end their 0- for 53 stretch against Carolina in Chapel Hill. Yep, Clemson has never beaten Carolina in basketball in Chapel Hill. Well, sure enough the Heels came back and got it into overtime, where they won. I couldn’t help but watch and wonder about the roller coaster of emotions for MC as he watched.

The next day I came in the office and walked over to MC’s cube. We just started laughing and I said, “Come here dude” and gave him a big ol’ hug. Every memory I have of Michael is positive. I love that.

By the way, you may not have known Michael, but over 300,000 of you have already been affected by him. You see Michael wrote the groups curriculum and discussion questions that supplement Andy’s DVDs and online sermons. A brilliant and humble guy. He poured himself out, aspiring only to glorify God. MC, you are deeply missed by all of us. Thanks for loving your wife, your boys, and your God with all you had. You took the life God gave you and lived every moment of it.





Want to make your church more effective?

28 04 2008

Give young people real responsibility in your leadership.

I’ve been trying (unsuccessfully) to track down the article I read a few months ago, but it mentioned that one of the reasons the 18-30 demographic is the segment most rapidly leaving the church is because they don’t ever have the opportunity to see themselves leading and shaping it. They are so vastly under-represented in church leadership, and I think the Church misses out big-time on some unique characteristics this life-stage can bring. Such as:

1. Chronologically, people in this demographic are often the closest to their own life-shaping decisions for Christ. As we frequently see in Scripture, those who recently had life-changing encounters with Christ, can’t help but go and tell others. They are passionate and compelled to talk about their real, tangible life change. Now, this is just my personal experience, but when I got serious about re-ordering my life with God as the top priority in my late 20’s, I was going through so much life change there was no way I could keep it bottled in. And I didn’t even have to try. The people who were around me noticed a marked change and wanted to know why. When they asked, I told them, or when they confided in me over their own lives, they welcomed me explaining what I had discovered about the relevance of God for me in this day and age.

My world is a little smaller today. Now, I’m on staff at a church. Most of the people I know are already Christians. I’ve gotten married and started a family, so my circle of relationships outside the church is smaller than it used to be. After 10+ years now of lending to the effort, my opportunities to actually witness to non-Christians with whom I have deep relationships is less now than it was when I came to all of this. Previously, I was in the business world and had all manner of influence with co-workers, bosses, people in the industry, etc. It didn’t take me 10 years to share what Christ had done. Some were intrigued by what I experienced and have taken their own paths to Christ, while others just moved on. My point is that the Church is often missing out on the influence of a younger generation who has recently made life-altering decisions about who Christ is going to be in their lives and the power and the passion that comes along with that is too often absent or not allowed greater influence.

2. Good ol’ idealism - Remember how black and white things were when you were younger, and how your mind was made up that as soon as you finished school and could begin to affect some change in the world, you were going to do it? Well, the further we get along in life, the more words like manage, cope, and compromise enter our vernacular. I don’t think that’s accidental. We learn that to get along, you often have to learn to play along. Plus, you throw in family responsibilities and the amount of time invested in our careers, and it’s clear to see that we become increasingly risk-averse in the choices our idealism likely requires. Again, this isn’t in all cases, but importantly, most of you with families of your own and mortgages get what I’m saying. Man, I think the Church benefits greatly when there’s a contingent of idealistic people who believe “this should and must be done”, and we’re the ones missing out when the demographic most likely to produce that idealism isn’t welcomed and allowed voice in the Church.

3. Hunger to learn and explore - This is not a rampant condemnation of older generations in the Church. Heck, I’m 37 now, so I don’t even get to be “cool” and jump with this key 18-30 generation. I’m just observing that some of the coolest things going on in the Church today are being empowered by a younger generation that is so hungry to learn and explore what it means to follow Christ, and rather than simply having only older generations who’ve been at this “God-stuff” longer, as the sole voice of leadership in the Church, it is vital that church leaders be intentional in seeking out young staff and inviting young volunteers into the discussion so that this generation can see they have a place and voice that’s welcome.





My ‘Blurple’ Heaven

17 04 2008

Meet \'Blurple\'

The post title is a take off on the old Steve Martin movie, “My Blue Heaven”. I try to remember that so I can find the humor and strength to press on. So, what is ‘Blurple’? You’re looking at it. It’s my wife’s 1999 Dodge Neon that looks dark blue at night, but unfortunately, more purple-ish during the day. I coined ‘blurple’ to best describe it. Oh, and this picture doesn’t show it well, but it has a nice, big ol’ dent right behind the driver’s door to really set it off from all the other blurple Neons out there.

Well, with our new child my wife inherited my beloved Toyota Land Cruiser. (Nice move, honey, nice move :-) Oh, how I miss my Land Cruiser! I can’t wait to get it back in a few years. But, driving Blurple around the Atlanta area has been a great lesson in humility.

And I hate it! Yep, I don’t like forced humility. I’d rather choose to come down a level or two. So, I think God is really using Blurple to show me things in my heart that He wants to work on. Can you make it fast, Lord? :-)

We are going to replace Blurple soon enough. I don’t have the gumption of those guys in the Junky Car Club. Besides, I’ve hung on to each of my cars longer than 10 years. In some ways, you could call me a supplier to the Junky Car Club ;-). Actually, our mechanic told us Neons don’t usually make it much longer than 100,000 miles and this puppy’s got 130,000 on it, so we know we’re on borrowed time. I remember when my wife and I first started dating. She already had the car, but I’d remind her of the Neon’s original ad campaign with the simplistic “Hi” introducing the car, all cutesy and stuff - the perfect girl car. And now it’s mine… :-( Boy, I’m having fun. Please, please send me your reminders of even girlier cars, you know like a Volkswagen Rabbit Convertible (sorry to all you guys driving one of those).

If you see me rolling around in Blurple, please don’t honk. Just ignore me. Thanks.